December 12, 2008
Blue Christmas
My youngest brother and his girlfriend are hurtling toward that heartache of heartaches: the holiday break up.
Who of us hasn’t been there? Who of us hasn’t asked, will we stay together through Christmas? Do I still buy the all-out present even though I know it’s probably over? Do I put on a brave face and power through the Christmas dinner with each other’s families? Do I hold out past NYE? What is the deadline to evacuate before it becomes unnecessarily hurtful, tacky, emotionally cruel, just plain mean?
For whatever reason, I feel like they aren’t going to last until Christmas; told my mom as much in confidence before I left after Thanksgiving. During my time there, his girlfriend was barely around and when she was, she seemed dead set on being contrary. Their bickering was monumental, and as he tried to be close to her, he unwittingly (and literally) repelled her.
While I was there, my parents and other brother individually expressed their concern for him, for how she was treating him. They felt certain that she’s cheating on him. It all caught me off guard. My family has always really liked her.
She’s been such a good fit for my brother, has even fit remarkably well within our family, which is no easy feat and has proven off-putting for a number of would-be significant others over the years, including Kit. We all like her, very much, and want to believe she wouldn’t cheat on him, but….they’re both young; she just turned 21 and he’s 22 and it is what it is. And now my family has turned on her and is closing ranks.
I really hope they’re off base though. I hope that it’s just a space issue. That now that he’s transferred to her school, that they have the same part time job, the same friends; it’s all too much…togetherness. Or maybe I’m the one who’s off base.
Either way, I’m going to hate seeing my brother go through a break up with her if it ever happens. We all go through it at some point; it’s a hazard of dating, of love. But it will be a first for him and it will be sad to see how it changes him.
As I sit typing this, my mom just called. She broke up with him last night.
The Silver Lining « Nic Narrates said,
February 19, 2009 at 1:52 pm
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